I dated my college boyfriend for 10 years and then dove into marriage with him for the next 7. So it isn’t useful to cross your arms until things change. John Gottman, my favorite relationship researcher, points out that fighting is a predictor of divorce! No, most marital arguments can’t be fully resolved (69% of them aren’t resolved according to Gottman).A quick, free search this week on turned up 173 single, heterosexual women and 193 single, heterosexual men between the ages of 50 and 75 within 20 miles of Bangor. According to a 2013 survey by the Pew Research Center, 8 percent of American adults 45 to 54 years old and 6 percent of American adults 55 to 64 years old have used a dating service to meet other singles.For 52-year-old Valerie Scott in Bar Harbor, online dating was a no-brainer. “You don’t have to tell anyone about it unless you want to, but, really, it’s becoming the norm.” Another 2013 study found that more than a third of all people who married between 20 met their spouse online, on either a dating site or a social media site such as Facebook. Faegre, 71 and divorced, has lived in the tiny Hancock County village of Gouldsboro for decades.Let’s say you’re a Mainer in your mid-50s or 60s or older, and one way or another you find yourself interested in meeting someone new. A partner, a lover, a companion, a spouse — someone to share life’s ups and downs. Increasingly, baby boomers head for their computers.Maybe you’re widowed, maybe divorced, maybe you never did find that certain someone. Established online dating sites such as — which is 20 years old this year — and e Harmony are doing a bustling business with the older set.
Perhaps it's something from your mother or father, a grandparent, a mentor, a friend, something you've read -- a piece of advice that has stayed with you and has helped you in finding love, understanding love or staying in love.You will find the perfect person who loves you as much as you love him, and you'll look back on this and laugh." While I couldn't understand then that you need to love someone who loves you back, I get it now. My grandparents died before I was born and my parents are deceased and never liked anyone I dated, really. Don't marry anyone who won't help with the cat litter box when you are away, busy or when you are sick.Twenty years, three children and a dog later, I'm still married to the man who loved me back. The couple who served as my polestars for love shared litter box tasks (and everything else).For the ultimate privacy on your romantic getaway, book one of the luxurious cottages with views of Penobscot Bay and the golf course.Each cottage has a fully-equipped kitchen, two gas fireplaces and flat screen TVs.